This Proverb says, “By forbearance a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue breaks the bone.” This Proverb indicates that one does not have to speak loudly or aggressively to be influential. A right word spoken gently and softly is far more effective. A calm demeanor with gentle speech will calm the other person. It will frequently diffuse anger.
I have found through experiences in my life that anger is not effective. All anger does is to promote anger in another person. Frequently their anger will grow and can get out of control. This is especially true within a marriage.
In a marriage, arguments will happen. These arguments usually have two possible outcomes. They may grow and get out of control. Or they may be resolved with a favorable outcome. To achieve the better outcome, either the husband or the wife must seek for peace. He or she must be willing to stop defending their position and choose words that will diffuse the anger. This is not easy to do. However, it is the only way to a peaceful resolution.
Therefore, we should strive to be thoughtful in choosing our words. Well thought out words should be spoken gently and calmly. Frequently such an approach will have a powerful effect on the other person. Gentle words will be far more effective than loud angry words.
