This Proverb says, “Constant dripping of a steady rain, and a contentious woman are alike; he who would restrain her restrains the wind, and grasps oil with his right hand.” As a married man, I must choose my words carefully with regard to this Proverb.
A woman or a wife responds to her husband. She responds according to how she is treated. If she is treated with care and love, she will respond with care and love. If she is treated poorly and without love, she may well become embittered and contentious.
In a healthy marriage, it is the husband’s job to initiate and lead. The wife responds. I have observed poor marital relationships where the wife is continually complaining and bickering. Many who see this situation may think poorly of the wife and her treatment of her husband. However, they do not live with the couple. They do not observe the true relationship between the husband and the wife. They do not see the root cause of the contention and bickering.
HUSBANDS MUST LOVE THEIR WIVES
The Bible says that husbands are to love their wives. Sometimes this is not easy to do, especially if the wife is contentious and constantly bickering. However, we as husbands must be understanding and love our wives even with the wife’s contentious behavior. When we do that the bickering and contention will disappear and the marriage will thrive.
Love is a choice. We husbands must choose to love our wives, even when it is difficult. We must not respond to a wife’s contention with anger. Rather, we should resist the urge to argue. It is not easy, but it will lead to good results.
I have discovered in my life that right feelings follow right actions. If we Husband’s treat our wives with love and respect, our marriage will thrive; and feelings of love will return to the marriage.
