In this daily Bible reading Paul gives the men in the Colossian church guidance on the marital relationship. He says, “Husbands, love your wives and do not be in embittered against them.” In a healthy marriage, the husband is the leader of his marriage and his family. He is or should be more stable and in control of his emotions.
Husbands know that their wives are emotional and are more influenced by their emotions than the husband. It is easy for a husband to be drawn into an argument with his wife, but experience has shown him that it is futile to argue. There will be no logical resolution for the husband. Emotion will prevail. As I have often said, in a marriage the husband can either be right or he can be happy. He cannot be both.
The Bible commands a husband to love his wife and give himself up for her. A man is to protect, nourish, and care for his wife, even when he is angry toward her. This attitude will produce the best results for any marriage. As a husband, I have learned that the right feelings follow the right actions, not the other way around. If we husbands love our wives even when we don’t feel the love, the result will be feelings of love. And the marriage will be healthy, happy, and successful.